"The first time I heard my first love story, I started searching for you.
Not realising how blind that was.
For lovers don't just meet somewhere, they are in each other all along."
~ Rumi
People sing about it, write about it, dream about it, and nearly everyone, at some point in life, feels they can't get enough of it. Love is the one thing most of us desire, and colour can help us find it. But what has colour got to do with love? After nearly 40 years of being in relationship with colour, I can tell you that colour has a lot to do with relationships and matters of the heart. Colour is a language unto itself. It bypasses the spoken word, the rational mind, and speaks directly to the heart and of the soul.
A love code colour match case study
Helen was not happy. She had come for a colour session to explore her inability to find or manifest a partner. She had created her vision board, programmed her crystals and, upon waking, would say 'good morning' every day, without fail, to the empty space next to her, as if her partner were there. Six months on, and the space was still cold and vacant.
I say cold because that is how she described the space. I asked her what colour the cold empty space would be. Her answer was immediate: 'Purple'. What is the colour when the space is filled with your partner? I asked. Again, her reply came without pause: 'Orange'.
We now had the beginnings of her colours of love, a love code if you like. We added her Gold Life Path Colour into the mix (read more about your own Life Path Colour here), and we were ready to go exploring Helen's love story. A love code is an energetic pattern created over many lifetimes and then mixed with the ancestral patterns of the family we are born into and / or grow up in.
Tracing the roots of our love code
When someone says they are seeking their soulmate, I always ask if there are any soulmate relationships within the family. I ask this because part of our experience and learning about love and relationship comes first, this time round, from the family we grew up with. And sometimes, like very good and dutiful sons and daughters, we stay loyal to the family pattern of love and relationship, which, more often than not, does not include soulmate relationships.
Colour has an energetic ability to untangle and take us straight to the point of an original pain and equally to the original love story upon which we base every other experience.
We all have a sense, on some level of being, of the love and partner we are seeking. If you long to be loved in a way you haven't yet experienced in this life, there's a strong possibility that somewhere within your soul's history, you have been loved with that depth. You know at that deep level of being how it feels to be looked at and touched by another in a way that connects us above, below, and all around. We all have a colour love code of some kind.
Helen's love code
Helen's cold purple took her to the story of her great aunt Henrietta, whose fiancé never came back from the war. The heartbreak was too much to bear. Out of love, she was protecting Helen from suffering the same pain. Henrietta had been looking out for Helen from the invisible realms for many years.
Orange taught Helen how to laugh and not be so critical of herself. She didn't need to be perfect in order to have a loving relationship. That was a huge relief for Helen. A shadowy trait of a Gold Life Path is this idea of having to be perfect in order to be happy.
During our time together, Helen regifted her crystals and burnt her vision board! Not because she didn't believe in them but because they represented her trying to be perfect. Orange replaced purple in the space next to her, and she started journaling with her yet-to-be partner. Why? Because she fell in love with the Rumi poem at the beginning of this article.
I tell this story because my favourite part is Helen's new partner's favourite colour just happened to be orange! And that is why I love colour for love and affairs of the heart.
To know and fully embrace the energy of The Lover archetype, we need to know both the sweetness and the pain of love. That's the risk we take whenever we open ourselves to love. And sometimes for some people, like great aunt Henrietta, that risk becomes too great to bear.
"Yesterday was glory and joy.
Today, a blackened burn everywhere.
On the record of my life, these two days will be put down as one."
~ Rumi
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